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No Excuses by Brian Tracy
21 Ways to Achieve Lasting Happiness and Success

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Although the audiobook is only seven hours long, this is one of my longest book summaries. No Excuses has some of the best advice on almost every major topic in business, personal development, and even family life. This is the type of book that I would want to read every couple of years to motivate me. It really challenges you to improve and strive for excellence in every aspect of life.

My Favorite Quotes

Key Questions

No Excuses by Brian Tracy Outline

Introduction

There are 1,000 excuses for failure but never a good reason.
There is a fantasy place called “Someday Isle” which is a place where people always say “someday I’ll do it.”
80% of the population lives on “Someday Isle.”

Excuses for being on Someday Isle:

The first rule of success: vote yourself off the island (Someday Isle).
No more excuses, do it or don’t do it, but stop making excuses.
Losers make excuses, winners make progress.

How to tell if your favorite excuse is valid or not.
Look around and ask yourself is there anyone else who has my same excuse but is successful anyway?

If people put as much energy into achieving their goals as they do into making excuses they will surprise themselves.

Why are some people more successful than others?

To achieve greatly you must become a different person.

The two biggest enemies to success, happiness, and personal fulfillment are:

  1. Taking the path of least resistance
  2. The expediency factor

The Path of Least Resistance

The path of least resistance causes people to do the following: 

The Expediency Factor (an extension of the law of least resistance)

Think Long-Term

Two laws you fall victim to when you fail to practice self-discipline.

  1. The Law of Unintended Consequences
  2. The Law of Perverse Consequences

Law of unintended consequences.
The unintended consequences of an action can be far worse than the intended consequences of that behavior because of a lack of long-term thinking.

Law of perverse consequences.
A short-action aimed at immediate gratification can lead to perverse or the opposite consequences from those at which it was aimed.

The common denominator of success.

Self-discipline becomes stronger and stronger as you develop it.

Part 1: Self Discipline and Personal Success

Your success in life depends more on the person you become than the things you do or acquire.

Aristotle said that the ultimate end of life is the development of character.

Chapter 1: Self-Discipline and Personal Success

“The first and best victory is to conquer self.” – Plato
Why do some people accomplish so much more?

How shall we live in order to be happy?
Ask and answer that question for yourself.

Begin with your own personal definition.

How do you define success?

Family life:

Financial situation:

When you define what success means to you, you begin to see things you should be doing more or less of in order to begin creating your ideal life.
The biggest things that hold you back from moving in the direction of your dreams are a lack of self-discipline and your favorite excuses.

Action Exercises

Take out a pen and write down answers to the questions below.

  1. If your work life and career were ideal, what would they look like? What one discipline could you develop that would help you to achieve it?
  2. If your family life were ideal, what would that look like? What one discipline would help you the very most to make it a reality?
  3. If your health were perfect in every way, what discipline would you have that would make that possible?
  4. If your financial situation were ideal today, what one discipline would you have that would help you the most?
  5. Why aren’t you already as successful as you would like to be. What one discipline would help you the most to achieve all your goals?
  6. What one skill could you develop that would help you to realize more of your goals?
  7. If you could wave a magic wand and be completely disciplined in any one area, which one discipline would have the greatest positive impact on your life?

Chapter 2: Self-Discipline and Character

Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you. Never excuse yourself, never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself and be lenient to everyone else.

The development of character is the great business of life.

What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear a word you say. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

The great virtues: (a series of virtues or values that are usually possessed by a person of character)

Integrity is the value that guarantees all of the other values.

It takes tremendous self-discipline to become a person of character.
Resist the temptation to cut corners, take the easy way, or go for short-term advantage.
Wisdom can be developed in private through study and reflection, but character can only be developed in the give and take of daily life when you are forced to chose and decide among alternatives and temptations.
Every choice you make is a statement about your true values and priorities.

Development of Character.

Development of character begins with the learning and practice of values.

You learn values in three ways.

  1. Instruction
  2. Study
  3. Practice

Instruction

Study

The core value or virtue of character is truth.

Emulate the people you admire.

Practice The Values You Respect

The Structure of Personality

The psychology of character involves the three parts of your personality.

  1. Self-ideal
  2. Self-image
  3. Self-esteem

Self-ideal

The most important part of your self-ideal is clarity.
Superior people are those who are absolutely clear about who they are and what they believe. 
They have complete clarity about what they believe and the values they stand for.
They are not confused or indecisive.

Weak and irresolute people are fuzzy and unclear about their values.
Only a vague notion about what is right or wrong in any situation.
As a result, they take the path of least resistance and act expediently.

The evolution of character.
From the least to the most complex life forms.

Humans can be organized along a spectrum from the least to the most developed.
Lowest forms of humans: no values, virtues or character.
Highest levels: men and women of complete integrity. Will never compromise honesty or character for anything, including financial loss, pain or even death.

Societies can be divided into two kinds; high trust and low trust.

Self-image (inner mirror)

Self-esteem (how much you like yourself)

The more you see yourself as a valuable and important person, the more positive and optimistic you will be.
The more you like yourself, the more you like others and the more they like you in return.
When you act with character and in harmony with your highest values; you put your whole life into an upward spiral. In every area of your life, things will get better and better.
Your role models have a tremendous impact on shaping your character.
When you compromise your values the opposite happens.
Almost all human problems can be solved by a return to your highest values and innermost convictions.
The more you think about the long-term consequences of your behavior, the more likely you will be to do the right thing in the short term.

When making a decision, always ask: what is important here?
What you dwell upon grows.
If you are in a situation where you are not living up to your highest values, make a decision to confront the situation immediately and straighten it out.
Think and talk about the virtues and values you most respect. Program them into your subconscious.

Action Exercises

  1. Name three people living or dead whom you most admire and describe one quality of each of them that you respect.
  2. Determine the most important virtue or quality in your life that you strive the most to practice or emulate.
  3. Identify those situations in which you feel the most confident, in which you feel like the very best person you could possibly be.
  4. What situations give you your greatest feelings of self-esteem and personal worth?
  5. If you were already an excellent person in every respect, how would you behave differently from today onward?
  6. What one quality would you like people to think of when your name is mentioned? What could you do to ensure this happens?
  7. In what one area do you need to be more truthful and practice higher levels of integrity than you do today?

Chapter 3: Self-Discipline and Responsibility

Eliminating Negative Emotions

Happiness arises from the absence of negative emotions.
The most common negative emotions are:

They all ultimately boil down to a feeling of anger directed inward or outward.

Anger is directed inwardly when you bottle it up rather than expressing it constructively to others.

Anger is directed outwardly when you criticize or attack other people.

Negative emotions weaken your immune system and make you susceptible to colds, flu and other diseases.

Excuses


Responsibility and Control

Action Exercises

  1. Resolve today to accept 100% responsibility for everything you are and for everything you become. Never complain, never explain.
  2. Look into your past and select the person or incident that still makes you unhappy today. Instead of justifying your negative feelings, look for reasons why you were partially responsible for what happened.
  3. Select a relationship in your past that made you unhappy and then give three reasons why you were responsible for what occurred.
  4. Select one person in your past with whom you are still angry and resolve to forgive that person completely for what happened. This act will liberate you emotionally.
  5. Accept complete responsibility for your financial situation and refuse to blame any financial problems on anyone else.
  6. Accept complete responsibility for your family situation with each person. Then take immediate action to improve your relationships wherever there may be problems.
  7. Accept 100% responsibility for your health, resolve to do today, or stop doing, whatever is necessary for you to attain excellent all-around health.

Chapter 4: Self-Discipline and Goals

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.
Your ability to discipline yourself to set clear goals and to work toward them every day will go more to guarantee your success than any other single factor.
You need to have goals to accomplish worthwhile things in life.
If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there.
The very act of taking the time to decide what you want in each area of your life can change your life completely.

The 3% Factor

New Year’s resolutions.
Only 4% of people that did not write them down followed through.
44% of people that wrote them down followed through.

The Discipline of Writing (Your Goals)

The disciplined act of writing out goals, making plans for accomplishing them, and working on them daily, increases the likelihood of achieving them by ten times (1000%).
There is no cost or risk involved in putting pen to paper and writing them down.
Writing is called a psycho-neuro-motor activity.
The very act of writing forces you to think and concentrate. It forces you to chose what is more important to you and your future.
When you write down a goal you impress it into your subconscious mind.
In life, you either work to achieve your own goals or the goals of someone else.
Become a lifelong goal setter.

When human beings set a goal, like a homing pigeon, they will head toward that goal without even knowing the way and that goal will head toward them.
Many people are hesitant to set goals.
You don’t need to know how to get there in order to set a goal, you just need to be clear about what you want to accomplish and the goal-striving mechanism in your brain will guide you unerringly to the destination.
Example. You can set a goal to find your ideal job in which you work for and with people you like and respect and do work that is both challenging and enjoyable.
Write down an exact description of what your ideal job would look like.
You must develop absolute clarity about what you really want.

The Seven Step Method to Achieving Your Goals

  1. Decide exactly what you want
  2. Write it down
  3. Set a deadline for your goal
  4. Make a list of everything you can think of that you can possibly do to achieve your goal
  5. Organize your list by both sequence and priority
  6. Take action on your plan immediately
  7. Do something every day that moves you in the direction of your major goal

Step 1: Decide exactly what you want.

Step 2: Write it down.

Step 3: Set a deadline for your goal.

Step 4: Make a list of everything you can think of that you can possibly do to achieve your goal.

Step 5: organize your list by both sequence and priority.

Step 6: take action on your plan immediately.

Step 7: do something every day that moves you in the direction of your major goal.

The Ten Goal Exercise

Take out a clean sheet of paper.
At the top of the page write the word “goals” and today’s date.
Discipline yourself to write down ten goals you would like to accomplish in the next 12 months.
Write down family, financial and fitness goals. As well as goals for personal possessions.
Don’t worry for the moment about how you will achieve these goals, just write them down. Write them down as quickly as you can. You can write up to 15 if you want.
Write a minimum of 10 in 3-5 minutes.
Select one goal. Imagine you can achieve one goal.
Which one goal will change or improve your life more than anything else?
Which one goal if you achieve it will help you accomplish more of your other goals than anything else?
This goal becomes your major definite purpose, your focal point.
Make a plan!
Once you have written out the goal clearly and specifically and made it measurable, set a deadline for your goal.
Make your plan.
Select the most important or logical next step.
Resolve to work on this goal every day until it is achieved.
Resolve that you will never give up until this goal is achieved, this decision will change your life.

Mind-Storming Goals

Use mind-storming to get started.
Take out a clean piece of paper and write out your major goal at the top in the form of a question.
Discipline yourself to write a minimum of 20 answers to the question.
For example, if your goal is to make a certain amount of money by a certain date. Ask yourself the question “How can I earn this amount of money by this specific date?
Discipline yourself to generate 20 answers to the question.
The first 3-5 will be easy, the next 5 will be difficult, and the last 10 answers will be harder than you can imagine. At least the first time you do this exercise.
Once you have generated 20 answers, select one of the answers to take action on immediately.

The great law of cause and effect.
The most important application of this law.
Thoughts are causes, conditions are effects.
Your thoughts create the conditions of your life.
When you change your thinking you change your life.
Your outer world becomes a mirror image reflection of your inner world.
You become what you think about most of the time.
Whatever you can think about on a continuing basis you can have.
The discipline of daily goal setting will make you a powerful, purposeful, and irresistible person.

Action Exercises

  1. Resolve today to switch on your success mechanism and unlock your goal-achieving mechanism by deciding exactly what you really want in life.
  2. Make a list of 10 goals that you want to achieve in the foreseeable future, write them down in the present tense as if you have already achieved them.
  3. Select the one goal that could have the greatest positive impact on your life if you were to achieve it, write it down at the top of another piece of paper.
  4. Make a list of everything that you could do to achieve this goal, organize it by sequence and priority, take action on it immediately.
  5. Practice mind-storming by writing out 20 ideas that could help you to achieve your most important goal, take action on at least one of these ideas.
  6. Resolve to do something every day, seven days a week, to achieve your most important goal until you are successful.
  7. Continually remind yourself that failure is not an option. No matter what, resolve to persist until you succeed.

Chapter 5: Self-Discipline and Personal Excellence

We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle

You are Your Most Valuable Asset

Join the Top 20%

Use the 3% formula to invest in yourself.

Three Steps to Becoming the Best in Your Field

  1. Read 60 minutes in your field each day.
  2. Listen to educational audio programs in your car.
  3. Attend courses and seminars in your field regularly.

The power of compound learning is amazing. The more you learn the more you can learn. The more you learn, the better your brain functions. Your memory and brain function improves.

The starting point of achieving mastery is my commitment to excellence.
The only direction you can coast is downhill.
Often there is only a thin veil that separates the average person from the excellent person.

Two hours each day will get you to the top.
Form the habit of continuous learning.
Learn, grow and upgrade your skills every day and every week.
The average adult watches 5 hours of television a day.
Your television can make you rich or poor, if you watch it all the time it will make you poor.
The more television you watch the lower are your levels of energy and self-esteem. At an unconscious level you don’t like or respect yourself as much.
Your television can make you rich if you turn it off.

How to Increase Your Income by 1000%.

Seven Steps to Accomplish the 1000% Income Increase

  1. Arise two hours before your first appointment or before you have to be at work.
  2. Re-write your goals every day.
  3. Plan every day in advance.
  4. Discipline yourself to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing.
  5. Listen to educational audio programs in your car.
  6. Ask two magic questions after every call or event.
  7. Treat every person you meet like a million-dollar customer.

Step 1: Arise two hours before your first appointment or before you have to be at work.

Step 2: Re-write your goals every day.

Step 3: Plan every day in advance.

Step 4: Discipline yourself to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing.

Step 5: Listen to educational audio programs in your car.

Step 6: Ask two magic questions after every call or event.

Step 7: treat every person you meet like a million-dollar customer.

Be the best.
Every time you learn and apply something new your brain releases endorphin.

Action Exercises

  1. Make a decision today to invest in yourself in getting better as if your future depends on it, because it does.
  2. Identify the most important skills you have that determine the quantity and quality of results you get at your work, and make a plan to get better in each one.
  3. If you could wave a magic wand and become absolutely excellent in any one skill, which one skill would have the greatest impact on your earning ability? Whatever your answer, set that skill as a goal, make a plan and work on it every day.
  4. Set excellent performance in your work as a goal, and then determine exactly what you need to do every day to join the top 20% of people in your field.
  5. Look ahead 3-5 years and determine the new knowledge and skills you will need in order to lead your field in the future. Start acquiring them today.
  6. Select the top person in your field whom you admire the most and use him or her as a role model for your own development.
  7. Commit yourself today to lifelong learning. Never let a day go by without getting better in some area.

Chapter 6: Self-Discipline and Courage

Courage is not the absence of fear, it is control of fear, mastery of fear. Mark Twain
To develop a quality that you lack, act as if you already had that quality in every situation where it is called for. Aristotle

Tips and Advice About Courage

Two types of courage you need.

  1. The courage to launch, take action, take a leap of faith. The major feeling that holds most people back is that they don’t have the courage to take the first step.
  2. Courageous patience. The ability to hang in there after you have gone all-in but have yet to see any rewards.

The companion of fear is worry.
98% of the things you worry about never happen.

Disaster Reports to Destroy Fear

Whenever you worry about something fill out a “disaster report” on the situation. This will destroy your fear almost immediately.

  1. Define the situation clearly. What exactly are you worried about?
  2. Identify the worst possible thing that could happen if this worry situation were to take place. Lose your job, lose money, etc.
  3. Resolve to accept the worst possible outcome should it occur. Say to yourself “well, if that happens it won’t kill me.”
  4. Begin immediately to improve on the worst. Take every step you possibly can to make sure that the worst possible outcome does not occur. Take action immediately.

Action Exercises

  1. Identify your three biggest fears in life right now, what are they?
  2. Determine what you would do in each of these situations if you were guaranteed of complete success. What actions would you take?
  3. What have you always wanted to do but been afraid to attempt? What would you do differently if you were guaranteed success?
  4. In what three areas of life and work do you most experience the fears of failure and loss? What steps can you take immediately to confront and eliminate those fears?
  5. In what three areas of life do you most experience the fears of criticism, rejection or embarrassment? How could you confront these fears and overcome them?
  6. What one great goal would you set for yourself if you knew you could not fail?
  7. What would you do differently in life if you had $20 million dollars in the bank but only 10 years left to live?

Chapter 7: Self-Discipline and Persistence

Beware of endeavoring to become a great man in a hurry, one attempt in 10,000 may succeed. Benjamin Disraeli

Action Exercises

  1. Identify one area in your life where you need to persist even harder to achieve your goal. Take action in that area.
  2. Identify a goal in your life that you did not accomplish because you failed to persist to completion. What steps could you take today to achieve in that area?
  3. Identify one big goal that you achieved because you persisted and refused to give up no matter how difficult it became.
  4. Decide on your major definite purpose in life. The one goal that, if you achieved it, would have the greatest positive impact on your life.
  5. Write down your goal clearly. Make a detailed plan of action to accomplish it, tell yourself that failure is not an option.
  6. Make a decision today that you will persist until you succeed no matter what happens because “I am unstoppable.”
  7. Resolve to set and achieve one important goal, overcoming the inevitable difficulties, problems, and setbacks you will experience until you succeed. Repeat this process over and over until persistence becomes a habit.

Part 2: Business, Sales, and Personal Finances

Chapter 8: Self-Discipline and Work

Leaders aren’t born they are made, they are made just like anything else, through hard work. Vince Lombardi

Poor Time Management

Develop an Excellent Reputation

The Law of Three

Make a list of all the things you do in a week (or month) from the time you start on Monday through the end of the week. Write down everything small and large including checking your email, returning phone calls, etc.

Review this list and ask yourself three questions:

  1. If I could only do one thing on this list all day long, which one activity contributes the most value to my company? (circle this task)
  2. If I could only do two things on this list all day long, which next activity contributes the most value to my company? (identify your second most important task and circle it)
  3. If I could only do three things on this list all day long, what is the third item that contributes the most value to my company?

This is the law of three.

There are three primary things you do that contribute 90% of the value to your company or organization. Train yourself to do these three things all day long.

Calculate Your Hourly Rate

Develop Your Reputation and Work Ethic

Pay the Price

The three-part formula for success at work:

  1. Come in a little earlier.
  2. Work a littler harder.
  3. Stay a little later.

This will move you so far ahead of your competitors that they will never catch up.

The 40+ Formula

Look the Part – Dress for Success

Your work behaviors naturally determine your ascension to leadership.

Action Exercises

  1. Make a decision today that you are going to become one of the top 20% of people in your company and your industry. What should you do or could you do differently to achieve that goal?
  2. Make a list of everything you do in your job, then identify the three things that contribute the greatest value to your work and your company.
  3. Set a new work schedule for yourself and begin to start earlier, work harder, and stay later until it becomes a habit.
  4. Identify the most important results you are expected to achieve in your job, then work on those results all day long.
  5. Determine the person who is the best dressed and groomed in your company, and then resolve to use him or her as a role model for your own appearance.
  6. Decide today that from now on you are actually going to work all the time you are at work, and that you are going to develop the reputation for being the hardest working person in your company.
  7. Develop a sense of urgency. Resolve to move fast when you are given a job or opportunity.

Chapter 9: Self-Discipline and Leadership

It is not possible to imagine an effective leader who lacks self-discipline, willpower, self-control, and self-mastery.
A leader is in complete control of himself in every situation.

Leadership is in great demand today.

Four Stages of Development

In your career and business, you progress through four levels of activity and attainment.

  1. An employee with limited knowledge and experience.
  2. Supervisor with responsibility for the performance and results of other people.
  3. Manager, someone who assigns work to people with demonstrated competence in certain areas. Have a larger view that comes with greater responsibilities.
  4. Leader, responsible for determining what is to be done rather than how it is to be done.

The ongoing question of a leader is always, “what results are expected of me?”
Clarity is essential.

Leaders Have Vision

Morale in a business filters down from the top, from the leader.
Discipline yourself to be a role model.
In excellent organizations, the leader is one whom everyone looks up to and wants to emulate.

Seven Principles of Leadership

  1. Clarity
  2. Competence
  3. Commitment
  4. Constraints (identify the constraints and limitations)
  5. Creativity (open to new ideas of all kinds from all sources)
  6. Continuous Learning
  7. Consistency

There is a direct correlation between your ability to discipline yourself and your behaviors and your readiness to lead.
Only when you prove to others that you are in complete control of yourself do they develop the confidence to put you in a leadership position and keep you there.
Everything a leader says to or about another person is magnified. A leader, therefore, encourages and praises people, both when they are there and when they are not around.
A leader never says anything negative that could be misinterpreted.

Leadership Qualities

Action Exercises

  1. Ask yourself, “what results are expected of me?” Concentrate single-mindedly on getting those results every day.
  2. See yourself as the leader of your organization and ask yourself, “what kind of company would this be if everyone in it were just like me?”
  3. Create a clear and exciting vision for yourself and your organization based on success and excellent performance.
  4. Identify the most important people in your business world and determine how you will have to behave toward them to get them to perform at their best.
  5. Resolve in advance, when the inevitable crisis occurs you will respond in a calm, controlled, and intelligent manner.
  6. Six: clarify the exact values and principles you believe in and stand for, and then share them with the people around you.
  7. Treat each person around you as if they are competent, valuable, and important.

For further reading on leadership see my page of business and leadership book summaries.

Chapter 10: Self-Discipline and Business

The achievement of business success requires self-discipline.

The First Discipline of Business Success

Identify Your Ideal Customer

The Discipline to Develop a Customer Service Policy

Set High Standards

Action Exercises

  1. Stand back and look at every area of your business as if you were an outside consultant. What changes would you recommend?
  2. Imagine you were starting your business over again today. Are there any products or services that you would not bring to the current market?
  3. Identify the 20% of your products and services that account for 80% of your profit. How could you sell more of them?
  4. Project forward one, two, and five years in your business. What are the trends? What will your customers be buying in the future?
  5. List three ways you could improve your customer service to ensure that customers buy from you again and tell their friends.
  6. List three ways you could attract more and better-qualified leads from your marketing and advertising activities.
  7. List three ways that you could make more sales to the prospects you attract or that you could attract more and better prospects.

For further reading on business see my page of business and leadership book summaries.

Chapter 11: Self-Discipline and Sales

How to Double Your Sales Income

Keys to Sales Success

Action Exercises

  1. See yourself as the president of your own personal sales corporation, completely responsible for sales results. This is the attitude of the highest-paid salespeople in every field.
  2. Set clear, written income goals for yourself for the next twelve months, as well as goals for each month of the year.
  3. Determine exactly how much of your product or service you will have to sell in order to earn that desired income.
  4. Determine how many individual sales you will have to make based on your average size of sale and the amount of commission earned.
  5. Determine how many prospects you will have to call on, based on your current experience, to make this number of sales.
  6. Dedicate yourself to continuous improvement in sales by reading each day, listening to audio programs in your car, and attending sales seminars.
  7. Spend every minute of every sales day getting face to face with people who can and will buy from you in the near future.

For more advice on sales and marketing see my book summary of Fanatical Prospecting and my summary of The One Page Marketing Plan.

Chapter 12: Self-Discipline and Money

The first victory of all great men is over themselves. Self-discipline comes first.

Saving Money and Delayed Gratification

The Laws of Attraction and Accumulation

Action Exercises

  1. Make a decision today to take complete control of your financial life, get out of debt, and achieve financial independence.
  2. Determine your net worth today.
  3. Set up a separate bank account and begin saving at least 1% of your income as you receive it, every month or paycheck.
  4. Make a list of all your debts and begin paying them off, starting with those carrying the highest interest rates.
  5. Calculate the exact amount you will need to be financially independent at the end of your career and set this as a goal.
  6. Set specific financial accumulation goals for yourself for each month, quarter, and year for the rest of your life.
  7. Practice frugality in spending by putting off and delaying every expenditure you possibly can until you achieve your long-term financial goals.

For more advice on personal finance see my book summary of The Richest Man in Babylon and my summary of Think and Grow Rich.

Chapter 13: Self-Discipline and Time Management

If you do not conquer yourself, you will be conquered by yourself.

You cannot manage time, you can only manage yourself. Peter Drucker.

Time Management is Life Management

Procrastination is the thief of dreams.

Personal Strategic Planning

Priority vs Posteriority

A System for Managing Your Time

Before you begin each day, start by making a list of everything you have to do that day. The best time to make this list is the evening before or at the end of the workday.

Your subconscious mind can work on your list of activities while you sleep. You will often wake up with ideas and insights for how to more effectively complete the tasks of the day.

Apply the ABCDE method to your list.

If you have several A tasks, write them by importance making the A1, A2, etc. Same with B and C tasks.

Never do a lower value task when you have a higher value task before you.

1000% return on investment. 

Questions to Ask Yourself

Questions to ask yourself to help keep focused on your top tasks, activities, and responsibilities.

Start today!

Overcome the procrastination that holds most people back.

What stands between me and my goals are almost always problems and difficulties of some kind. My ability to effectively solve the problems of daily life can have an enormous impact on my results and rewards.

Action Exercises

  1. Make a decision today to become absolutely excellent at time management. Work at it until it becomes a habit.
  2. Before you begin each day, make a list of everything you have to do that day, as new tasks arise, write them down before you act on them.
  3. Organize your work list by priority using the ABCDE method, over and over until it becomes a habit.
  4. Identify your A1 task each day. Resolve to work single-mindedly on that task until it is totally complete.
  5. Identify the one task that only you can do, and that if you do it well, can make a real difference.
  6. Determine the 20% of your tasks that can account for 80% of your results. Discipline yourself to work on them most of the time.
  7. Every minute of every day, ask yourself “What is the most valuable use of my time right now?” discipline yourself to work on only that task until it is complete.

For more advice on time management see my book summary of The ONE Thing, or my summary of Getting Things Done, or my summary of The E-myth Revisited.

Chapter 14: Self-Discipline and Problem-Solving

Experience is not what happens to a man, it is what a man does with what happens to him.

Improve Your Thinking

Focus on Solutions

Stepping Stones to Success

A Nine Step Method for Solving Problems Effectively

Action Exercises

  1. Solving problems is like solving mathematical equations, it is learnable with practice and repetition. Start by determining the biggest problems facing you today, write them down.
  2. Accept complete responsibility for solving the problems you encounter in your daily work. Then think about the solutions.
  3. Define your biggest business or personal problem clearly, write it down. Then ask, “what exactly is the problem?”
  4. Why is this a problem? Could it be an opportunity in disguise? If so, what opportunity or lesson could this problem contain?
  5. What else is the problem?
  6. What are all the possible solutions and what else could be the solution?
  7. Select the best solution that is available to you right now and take action immediately.

Part 3: Self-Discipline and Happiness

Happiness is more spiritual and emotional than it is about acquiring material things.

Chapter 15: Self-Discipline and Happiness

The Law of Control

The law of control says: you feel happy to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life. You feel unhappy to the degree to which you feel you are not in control of your own life.

Five Ingredients of Happiness

  1. Health and Energy
  2. Happy relationships
  3. Meaningful work
  4. Financial independence
  5. Self-actualization

See Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

Deficiency needs:

Self-Esteem Needs:

Self-Actualization

Action Exercises

  1. Identify the areas of your life in which you feel the happiest and the most in control. How could you expand them?
  2. Identify the areas of your life in which you feel controlled by other people or factors. What could you do to resolve these situations?
  3. Identify those areas in your life where there is a gap between your current levels of accomplishment and what you would really like to achieve. What could you do to bridge these gaps?
  4. Identify the most pressing needs you have today that are not being fulfilled. How could you begin to satisfy these deficiency needs?
  5. Identify those activities that give you the greatest feeling of personal happiness, your peak experiences in life. What could you do to increase these moments of happiness?
  6. Identify the areas in your life where you feel the most discontented. What steps could you take immediately to resolve these feelings of discontent?
  7. Define happiness for myself. What does it mean? What would have to happen for me to feel truly happy? What can I do immediately to create this situation.

Chapter 16: Self-Discipline and Personal Health

Self-respect is the root of discipline. The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to one’s self.
There is no area more important to practice self-discipline than your personal health.
Your #1 goal should be to live as long and as well as you possibly can.

Seven Key Health Habits

  1. Eat regularly. Preferably 5-6 times a day.
  2. Eat lightly. Overeating makes you feel sluggish.
  3. Don’t snack between meals.
  4. Exercise regularly. Ideally 30 minutes per day.
  5. Wear a seat belt.
  6. Do not smoke.
  7. Drink alcohol in moderation.

The Five “Ps” of Excellent Health

  1. Proper weight.
  2. Proper diet. Lean source protein. Wide variety of fruits and vegetables. Lots of water.
  3. Proper exercise.
  4. Proper rest.
  5. Proper attitude. Optimism.

Losing Weight

Action Exercises

  1. Idealize with regard to your health. If you could wave a magic wand and make your health perfect in every way, how would it be different from today?
  2. Resolve to make the rest of your life the best of your life. What is the first thing you should change or do?
  3. Get a complete medical examination and ask your doctor for advice on how to enjoy superb levels of physical health. Then follow that advice.
  4. Determine your ideal weight and set it as a goal. Use the goal-setting process from chapter 4 to make a plan to achieve it, and keep it there for life.
  5. Use mind-storming, also described in chapter 4, and write out a list of at least 20 answers to the question “What can I do every day to enjoy superb levels of health and energy?”
  6. Review the health habits and research discussed in this chapter and give yourself a grade ranging from 1-10 on how well you are practicing them.
  7. Decide on one specific action you are going to take immediately to ensure that you live to age 80, 90, and beyond.

Chapter 17: Self-Discipline and Physical Fitness

Mental toughness is a state of mind you could call character in action.

The Benefits of Physical Fitness

Tips on Physical Fitness

Action Exercises

  1. Today is the day. Make a decision that you are going to achieve the best physical condition of your life in the months ahead. Then take action immediately.
  2. Get a complete medical examination so that you know your condition and limits before you begin.
  3. Start walking for 30 minutes each day, preferably first thing in the morning. If not in the morning, right after work.
  4. Join a gym or health club, pay for a year, make an appointment with yourself to work out 5 times a week 60 minutes each time.
  5. Hire a personal trainer and have him or her guide you through an exercise program that includes aerobics, strength, and flexibility exercises each week.
  6. Invest in a treadmill, life-cycle, or elliptical machine and put it in front of your TV so that you can exercise as part of your home and family life.
  7. Start gradually and work up slowly, resolving to exercise for several weeks before you notice a major difference.

Chapter 18: Self-Discipline and Marriage

Four Disciplines of Listening

  1. Listen attentively. Without interrupting. Listen as though the other person is about to reveal a great secret.
  2. Pause before replying.
  3. Ask for clarification.
  4. Feed it back. Paraphrase in your own words. This proves to the other person you were really listening.

The most compatible couples are those in whom the desire to talk and listen are in balance with each other.
You must have a total commitment to each other.

Two Ways to Avoid Temptation

  1. Make a decision in advance that you will never be unfaithful to your spouse.
  2. Discipline yourself to stay out of harm’s way. Refuse to go anywhere or do anything where temptation may exist.

The Only Four Ways You Can Change Your Life

  1. Do more of some things
  2. Do less of other things
  3. Start something you have never done before
  4. Stop doing certain things altogether

Important Questions

Ask your children and your spouse on a regular basis:

Your spouse should be your best friend.

Action Exercises

  1. What is the most important single action you could take right now to increase the love and harmony in your relationship?
  2. What disciplines or practices could I develop that would improve the quality of my marriage for my spouse?
  3. Identify one behavior I could engage in that would improve communication in my marriage.
  4. Sit down with my spouse and ask for ideas on things I should do more of, less of, stop doing, or start doing.
  5. Identify the two qualities that I most admire in my spouse.
  6. Identify the areas in which I and my spouse are most compatible.
  7. Identify the most important values that I and my spouse share.

Chapter 19: Self-Discipline and Children

Discipline vs Development

The Power of Forgiveness

Action Exercises

  1. What two qualities would you like your children to identify with you by observing your behavior?
  2. What two qualities would you like most to instill in your children and how could you achieve this?
  3. If you were an excellent role model for your children, how would your behaviors be different starting today?
  4. What mistakes have my children made that I should forgive and forget about starting immediately?
  5. What actions am I going to take immediately to spend more time with my children?
  6. What actions should I take to instill the quality of truthfulness in my children?
  7. How could I encourage and reward my children so they practice greater self-discipline, self-control, and self-mastery?

For further reading on parenting see my book summary of The Gift of Failure, or my summary of Boys Should be Boys, or my summary of When Work and Family Collide.

Chapter 20: Self-Discipline and Friendship

Your Self-Image

Your self-image is made up of three parts.

  1. The way you see yourself.
  2. The way you think others see you.
  3. The way people actually do see you and treat you.

You are only truly happy when you feel all three parts of your self-image coincide.

The Law of Indirect Effort

Seven Ways to Make Other People Feel Important

  1. Accept people the way they are.
  2. Show your appreciation for others.
  3. Be agreeable.
  4. Show your admiration.
  5. Pay attention to others.
  6. Never criticize, condemn or complain about anything, whether it be directly or indirectly. Never say anything that lowers another person’s self-esteem.
  7. Be courteous, concerned and considerate of everyone you meet.

The key to good listening is asking questions and hanging on to every word of the answers. Ask people how they are doing and listen considerately. Resolve that from now on, when people leave your presence they will feel much better than they did when they entered your presence.

Action Exercises

  1. Make a list of the most important friends in my work and personal life. What can I do to make them feel better about themselves?
  2. Identify the first thing I could do in every meeting or encounter to make the other person feel important.
  3. Resolve to make each person feel more valuable and worthwhile because he or she spoke to you.
  4. Practice non-judgmental-ism in all of your relationships. Always assume the best of intentions on the part of others.
  5. Imagine that each person you meet has only a short time to live, and you are the only person who knows.
  6. Find something about each person that is impressive to you and then tell the other person how impressed you are.
  7. Imagine there is a hidden camera and microphone recording every interaction you have with other people, how would you behave differently?

Chapter 21: Self-Discipline and Peace of Mind

Men are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound. – James Allen

How to Succeed in the Outer World and Inner World

Two causes of blaming:

  1. Attachment
  2. Justification

Discipline yourself to stop justifying your negative emotions.

Practice Forgiveness

Action Exercises

  1. Take the forgiveness test. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
  2. Identify the people from your past who you feel have hurt you in any way, make a decision today to forgive them and let go of those negative feelings.
  3. Find reasons not to justify your negative emotions of blame or anger and use your intelligence to accept responsibility.
  4. Set peace of mind as your highest goal and resolve to let go of any thoughts or emotions that disturb you in any way.
  5. Begin today to read something spiritual and uplifting each morning before you begin your day. This habit will change your life.
  6. From now on, refuse to take things personally. Ask yourself how much it will matter 5 years from today.
  7. Practice the Buddhist method of detachment from money and material things, refuse to become upset or worried about anything.

Key Questions from No Excuses

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